The Parents’ Guide to Teaching your Teen Online Safety


Keeping your teen safe online is near the top of the worry list for parents today. Kids do everything online, from learning to socialising, gaming to shopping. For teens, learning how to recognise the risks and protect themselves is a life skill they’ll need for years to come.

The first step to keeping teens safe online is to know what your child is actually doing online. Rather than banning it, you need to engage with it. Even if they’ve told you what apps they’re on, it can easily go over your head if you’re not in the know. Here’s a run-down of the main online platforms that teens are using at the moment.

👉The most popular apps with teens right now

👉Online risks for teens, and how to protect them

The most popular apps with teens right now

  1. Instagram
  2. TikTok
  3. YouTube
  4. Snapchat
  5. Twitter
  6. Whatsapp
  7. Multiplayer video games

1. Instagram

Instagram is the most popular app with teens today. You might use it yourself, but if you don’t it’s an app where you can simply post a picture (or several) with a caption, and this then gets viewed by other users who follow your account.

You have the choice to have a private or a public account. If you have a public account, then if your photo caption contains words with a hashtag in front of it (i.e. #picoftheday), then it will get shared with users who follow that hashtag.

Instagram has 1 billion active monthly users

Pros: Great for discovering inspiring ideas and content.

Cons: Can promote unrealistic ideas of what’s real or normal.

2. TikTok

A musical app where you upload a 15-second video – normally miming the words to a song – and then merge it with music to create a short music video.

Pros: A fun way for kids to be creative with music and videos.

Cons: There’s little in the way of screening for different age-groups, so they might see provocative or inappropriate videos.

Founded only 2 years ago, TikTok already has 1 billion users

3. YouTube

You’ll almost certainly know about YouTube, the video sharing site. With teens, make-up tutorial videos, video game demonstrations, singing and music videos all have huge popularity. Some users who have thousands of followers, including children and teens, get paid (sometimes enough to live on) by companies for reviewing their products in their videos.

YouTube influencer Zoella has 11.6 million subscribers to her videos

Pros: A great source of free educational and entertaining videos.

Cons: Like with Instagram, influencers can encourage an unrealistic view of what’s normal.

4. Snapchat

Snapchat lets you take a photo or short video – with the option of many fun face-recognition filters – to your friends. The video/photo then deletes itself straight after being viewed.

Snapchat has lots of funny face-recognition filters that let you send funny selfies

Pros: It makes video and picture sharing easy and means content doesn’t fill up memory on everyone’s phones.

Cons: If any content is bullying or inappropriate, it can delete itself before the recipient gets the chance to report it.

5. Twitter

Another one that you’ll probably be familiar with. The message posting site that has changed the world since it was founded in 2006, and is especially popular with a certain US president. It’s really popular with teens too, and they often use it to share memes, jokes and opinions of whatever’s going on in their day. Like Instagram, if you have a public account you can share your posts more widely by using hashtags, and you can choose to keep your posts private too.

Twitter lets you share news, opinions and stories around the world

Pros: Gives everyone a chance to share their news and opinions, and find out what others are saying too.

Cons: Kids are exposed to a full range of content (good and bad) and since it’s public, their posts may receive comments from strangers

6. Whatsapp

You’ll probably have this on your phone too. Used by billions across the world, it’s one of the most popular ways to instant message – both one-to-one and in groups. You need someone’s phone number or email address to be able to message them, and messages are “end-to-end encrypted”, which means they’re (basically) unhackable.

Whatsapp is one of the most popular instant messaging apps

Pros: Makes messaging quick and easy, and works on both Apple and Android devices.

Cons: Can be addictive, especially if they’re in any active group chats.

7. Multiplayer video games – XBox, Playstation, Minecraft, Fortnite etc.

Popular with lots of teens and adults, video-games that are linked to the internet let you play with people from anywhere else in the world.

Fortnite is one of the most popular multi-player games at the moment

Pros: State-of-the-art gaming which is really fun and can be creative and educational. Instant message and audio chat options make them very social.

Cons: It’s possible to play with and chat to people who they don’t know.

So these are the main platforms that teens spend their time on at the moment. But what are the main risks? With teens, once you’re aware of the dangers, the most effective way to protect them is to educate them in practicing safe behaviours themselves.

Online risks for teens, and how to protect them

    1. Sharing personal information
    2. Teens socialising online – staying safe and avoiding cyberbullying
    3. Harmful content
    4. What are influencers and why are teens so obsessed with them?
    5. Body image and mental health for teens online

1. Sharing personal information

  • Whatever platform your child is on, they should know never to share personal information about themselves publicly. That includes their whole name, address, phone number, email address, bank account details and what school they go to.
  • Any accounts they have on post-sharing sites/apps (Instagram, Twitter, TikTok) should be set to private, so noone they don’t know can see what they share.
  • The only private accounts they follow should be those of friends and family (they’ll probably follow celebrities too), and they shouldn’t let themselves be followed by anyone they don’t know.
  • Even then, private accounts and personal messages can still sometimes be seen by the wrong people. A good rule of thumb is to never share anything online that they wouldn’t be happy to publish on the front page of a newspaper.

2. Socialising online – staying safe and avoiding cyberbullying

  • When it comes to communicating with people online, the first rule should be to have the same standards that they have for speaking to people face-to-face. That includes both what they say to others, and how they let themselves be treated too.
  • Remind them that any strangers they do communicate with online could easily not be who they say they are. You probably don’t want to scare them to death, but if you feel they’re not taking on what you’re saying, then the news is full of horror stories where things have gone wrong that should warn them of the risks out there.
  • They should never meet up in person with anyone they’ve met online.
  • Have an ongoing conversation about mental health, and how certain things they see or experience on the internet make them feel. This can help you guide them to recognise when something’s inappropriate, and to protect themselves as a result.

3. Harmful content

The internet is full of stuff that teens and children shouldn’t see. From fake news, to images that promote a negative body image, to pornography to negative ideologies, it’s no wonder that parents worry. While you can control what they can see at home to an extent with the settings in your wifi account, it’s still easy for them to come across harmful content at some point. The most effective way to help them here is to educate them in tackling the dangers themselves.

  • Encourage them to take a critical approach to any information they see or read online. Where is it published? What are the expertise of the author? What is the motive of the author?
  • Show them how to report content and comments they find offensive, and how to block and report inappropriate or abusive users.
  • Remind them that they should come and talk to you if anything does upset them, or if they’re not sure how to respond to something, so you can work out what to do together.

4. What are influencers and why are teens so obsessed with them?

It’s a word that’s become a job title in the past few years. In a recent survey, more kids in the UK said they wanted to be influencers than doctors! An influencer is someone with an account on an online platform (like the ones mentioned above) who has thousands or even millions of followers. They tend to recommend products to buy (often with sponsorship from the company) and promote their lifestyle.

Ask your teen what influencers they pay attention to, and about the sort of content they share. Talking to your teen about how they’re using the web like this is a great chance to help them understand what’s healthy and what might be having a negative impact.

5. Teen body image & mental health online

A big problem for teens online is content that encourages negative body image. Most famously for girls but for boys too, influencers who post pictures of what they eat, detailed posts about dieting and photos of their bodies to accompany them can all feed into teens feeling self-conscious, with a warped idea of what’s normal and healthy.

Ask your teen about the sorts of images they’re seeing online, and how they make them feel. Even if they’re not totally frank about their feelings, it’s important to tell them how people are not always honest about what they say their lifestyle is (i.e. someone who posts a picture of a huge ice cream sundae along with a photo of them looking super skinny might not have eaten the whole thing, and they might not be eating healthily either).

If your teen can limit how much attention they give to lifestyle and diet-related content, their mental health is likely to benefit. Reinforcing positive messages and habits at home can also help to override any negative stuff they’ve been seeing on the internet.

Further reading & resources:

From the Government – Child Online Safety – a practical guide for parents and carers whose children are using social media

From NSPCC (the National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children) –  A Guide to Keeping Children Safe Online

From MyTutor – The Screen Time Diet: helping your teen find the balance with tech


 Via The Parents’ Guide to Teaching your Teen Online Safety